Angry? Me? Of course not! Why the %#$% would you even ask?
Fight or Flight
We have emotional responses to the events in life. Once we become aroused, one of three states typically takes over.
People do not have gauges . . . so we may not realize we are coping instead of thinking.
Dr. Paul MacLean's triune brain theory provides interesting insights into the complexities of human behavior. He postulates that the brain has acquired three drivers, all seated up front and all of different minds! In other words, it's as if an alligator, a gorilla, and a computer were driving the human system!
We now know that under stress or when anticipating danger, the cerebellum or lowest and most primitive levels of the brain take control. According to MacLean, the primitive needs dictated by the Reptilian Brain include a sense of safety, survival and territoriality.. Like reptiles, cold-blooded and controlled by instinct, this part of our brain focuses on survival. This reptilian part of our brain is poorly equipped for learning to cope with new situations. and controls the behaviors associated with instinct and survival.
When a person is under stress, feeling fearful or angry, higher order thinking shuts down.
We can gain control over our emotions by recognizing and monitoring our affective responses. Leveling supports both feelings and cognitive processes. It is one of the best ways to acknowledge feelings to ourselves and then share them with others. We level when we let someone know we are hurt -- or afraid -- or that we are angry . . . were angry.
Anger, bottled up, or fear that is kept hidden, seems to lead to more recurrences of anger. Anger is an important feeling, yet we often avoid admitting to ourselves or others that we are angry. In fact, when we are fuming we may not tumble to the fact until later. That makes leveling about anger even more difficult. . . and more critical
Leveling, naming the feeling and telling ourselves or others how we really feel,.means we are exploring true feelings for ourselves and sharing our bewilderment or discovery with others
When we are unwilling or unable to level about feelings, defenses take the place of honesty
A coward dies a thousand deaths --- A brave man dies but one - Shakespeare
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