If
Rudyard Kipling
If
you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting, too;
If you can wait and not be tired of waiting
Or be lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet donÕt look too good, nor talk too wise.
If
you can dream -- and not make dreams your master,
If you can think -- and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster,
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth youÕve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop to build Ôem up with worn out tools.
If
you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them "Hold on!"
If
you can walk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with king -- nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
And all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute,
With sixty seconds worth of distance run,
Yours is the earth and everything that's in it,
And which is more -- youÕll be a Man, my son!
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Skills
for Self Soothing
Reason with yourself
Stop hostile thoughts, feelings and urges
Distract yourself
Meditate - actively soothe self
Avoid overstimulation
Care for a pet
Listen!
Practice trusting others
Give service to others
Increase second person perspective
Recognize and address your needs
Be tolerant with self and others
Forgive and let go - self and others
Confide in someone you can trust
Laugh at yourself
- Adapted from Williams & Williams, 1993
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