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Lesson Two - Primary Grades

Dealing with Anger - Being Friendly


Preset: Fable: The North Wind and the Sun (Aesop)
Song: If You're happy and you know it ---
    happy - clap your hands
    click tongue, sing a tune
    sad - wipe your eyes
    proud - sit up tall

Development:

Discussion Circle: Which statement makes me happy, and which makes me angry. On the Front Board, place the two categories

Angry - Unfriendly
  1. Your friend pushes you down at recess.
  2. A classmate helps you with your work.
  3. A person smiles at you.
  4. A classmate tells you he doesn't like you.
  5. Someone takes the ball away from you.
  6. A friend sits with you at lunch.
  7. A classmate helps you clean up.
  8. Someone tells you that you look nice.
  9. Teacher tells you that she likes your work.
  10. Someone pushes you out of line.
  11. A classmate shares a toy with you.
  12. A classmate won't let you play in the game.
  13. A friend tells you that he doesn't want to play with you.
  14. Someone calls you a bad name.
Happy - Friendly


As a group, review the items under the unfriendly/angry column and talk about how to deal with each action. Help children to see options. eg. push back, tell the teacher, cry, tell the student nicely to stop and report it if it doesn't stop.

If children are ready to evaluate their own responses, write the responses on the board, and then let a child draw a happy or sad face beside each one. This is the next step in self understanding. Children often know how another makes them feel. They are less able to see how their own actions appear to others.

Activity: Self portrait- Fill in the picture of yourself looking angry & then being friendly
Summary: Ask students which picture they like best.
Teacher tells which picture s/he likes best.
Materials needed: Fable - "The North Wind and the Sun"
Self portrait

The North Wind and the Sun
Aesop

The North Wind and the Sun had a quarrel about who was stronger. While they were arguing with much heat and bluster, a traveler passed along the road, wrapped in his coat.

"Let us agree," said the Sun, "that the stronger of us can strip the traveler of his coat."
"Very well," growled the North Wind, and at once, sent a howling blast against the traveler.

With the first gust of wind, the ends of the coat whipped about the traveler's body. But he immediately wrapped it closely around him and the harder the Wind blew, the tighter he held it to himself. The North Wind tore angrily at the coat, but all his efforts were in vain.

Then the Sun began to shine. At first, his beams were gentle, and in the pleasant warmth after the bitter cold of the North Wind, the traveler unfastened his coat and let it hang loosely from his shoulders. The Sun's rays grew warmer and warmer. The man took off his hat and wiped his face. At last, he became so hot that he pulled off his coat, and to escape the blazing sunshine, threw himself down in the welcome shade of a tree by the roadside.

You should now:

Go on to Assignment 2
or
Go back to Supportive Discipline

E-mail J'Anne Ellsworth at Janne.Ellsworth@nau.edu

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