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ESE502 : The Class : Pro-active Management : Supportive Discipline : Lesson 1

Lesson One - Intimacy

Preset

Write the following quotes on the board or overhead. Add or substitute others if they are available and more cogent for the group. Pass out the Interpersonal Inventory.

Love is as strict as acting. If you want to love somebody, stand there and do it. If you don’t, don’t. There are no other choices. - Tyne Daly

In courtesy I’d have her chiefly learned;
Hearts are not had as a gift but hearts are earned - Yeats “A prayer for my daughter”

Development

Intimacy is a very personal subject. It combines how we feel about ourselves with trust, communication skills, and our need for approval. It also has a lot to do with how many people we naturally feel comfortable around. This is referred to as being an introvert or extrovert. We learn many of our lessons about intimacy from our family and friends without thinking about it. This lesson will not change most of our automatic responses to others, but it may provide more self understanding and expand awareness of personal choices.

It may help :
  • provide more awareness of what we tell others
  • give insight about our boundaries
  • identify a lifestyle tendancy - introverted or extroverted
Activity
  1. Take and score the Interpersonal Inventory
  2. Make a Bull’s Eye chart
Summary

Draw a cartoon about yourself or compose a collage of different clippings which reflects what you have learned about your need for closeness, your trust of others, your communication patterns

Share with someone, remembering to ask yourself:
  1. Who can you trust;
  2. Who will want to share;
  3. Who will you wish to listen to in reciprocation
  4. Are there ways you should honor yourself through privacy
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