Lesson Six - Reflecting and Balancing

Preset:

Hand out and work on the “Messages” thought completion worksheet.

Development:

It sounds a little simplistic to discuss accepting ourselves. In reality, there are big snags that get in the way.

One snag comes from the things we have been told by others. If we were told repeatedly that we have pretty eyes or are lazy and messy, those messages become internalized.

Another snag comes from the modeling of those around us. Perhaps a family member has derogatory names for a racial group or treated men or women in a derogatory manner. We are often less aware of these messages, though they are just as embedded.

Finally, as we mature we grow into the ability to see and feel the needs and perspectives of others. As young children this capacity for second person perspective is very limited. As adults, we must assess, reflect, and develop an individuated set of responses to achieve a balance that reflects who we are and what we believe.

1. Fill out “Where did I get that Idea?”
   
2. Read “Moving beyond prejudice.
   
3. Set a few realistic goals for increasing self compassion and greater acceptance of others

Example:

Merry Active Relaxed Tender Helpful Amusing

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